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Such a person might gravitate toward situations and fantasies in which he or she is an object of desire, on display exciting others.What could counteract feelings of inferiority or invisibility better than strutting your stuff and arousing others?The fact that he's apparently being treated for sexual addiction only makes it more confusing.What is sexual addiction and does that really explain Weiner's behavior?In the course of growing up, to the extent that boys have to deny their identifications with and dependency on their mothers in order to separate and become "masculine," they end up cut off from their inner lives and averse to feelings of dependency. The safety of anonymous Internet relationships temporarily relieves the resulting suffering. Men still crave intimacy but fear that gratifying this craving will enmesh them in dependent relationships with women they can't satisfy or make happy and to whom they'll invariably surrender their autonomy and give more than they get.
Others are more impressed with how his behavior reflects the overarching pathology of the male ego, especially those of politicians and public figures. Some people, however, are genuinely curious about the deeper psychological reasons that a successful man like Weiner who is married to a beautiful dynamo of a woman would risk his career to compulsively engage in the most superficial erotic repartee with women he doesn't know and with whom he would never consider having a real relationship.
The subjective experience of arousal, desire, or compulsion seems biological or otherwise mysterious.
The reality is that desire begins in the mind and travels a circuitous path downward, but it does so outside our awareness. For example, arousal is difficult if one feels too worried about or responsible for the other person, for his or her satisfaction.
While these three dimensions of online sexual play can be appealing to women, too, they speak to particular anxieties and vulnerabilities in many men today.
For reasons having to do with their childrearing and with the social construction of masculinity, men tend to be emotionally disconnected from themselves and others.
And, finally, a university professor, a woman, who I worked with many years ago found herself drawn to biker types because their apparent rough-hewn manner and in-sensitivity made her less guilty and worried about taking care of them. Some people, predominantly men, enjoy sexual encounters on the Internet, whether via erotic conversations, twittering, or sexting.