Dating a recently divorced man with children
No matter how you feel about his previous squeeze, you can’t let on.
Now, I’m not saying to spare his feelings because he loved her once and blah blah blah…
Perhaps his ex is trying to tell you who’s boss in HIS house, maybe she’s trying to talk badly about him, or butting into your relationship.
Speaking of kids, it’s important not to try too hard when you meet his children.
There’s no need to bring toys and shower them with gifts and over attention. If you’re trying too hard, they’ll know you’re afraid that they will dislike you and ruin your chances with their father.
Also, if you and his children get along too well too fast, and then you and this guy break up, it will be devastating for the children (it’s their parents’ divorce all over again).
Don’t meet the kids right away; give the relationship with you and your guy time to bloom first.Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!In this day and age, it isn’t at all unusual to find yourself dating a man who is divorced.