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Remember, ladies, there are three sides to every story: His side, her side, and what really happened. However, they also come with, I’ll say it again, a little extra baggage. They’re not going to be the party boy you might be used to, and they’re not always likely to put up with women who need to know their every waking moment. Speaking of going easy on him, you also need to move slowly in this relationship.
Don’t judge their relationship; it isn’t yours and therefore, it really isn’t any of your business. If you’re dating a man who has been divorced, chances are he’s had his heart ripped out by someone he held dear.
In other words no making room for his toothbrush or giving him his own drawer yet.
This guy will need some time to adjust to the idea of a serious relationship. Perhaps you were well-prepared for a few snide remarks or some dirty looks thrown your way. On the other hand, did his ex throw you off kilter by being a complete psycho bitch?
Here are the 10 most important tips for a smooth relationship with a man who’s been divorced. When visions of your date as the assh*le husband dance through your head, just remember that divorces are rarely any different than the break-up of any other really long relationship; they’re just more expensive.
You can’t imagine his ex-wife as the bitchy, nagging psychopath either.
While your fears are recognized by every other woman in the world dating a divorced man, it’s still not a good idea to be overzealous when meeting his kids. If you meet his parents, his brothers or sisters, his best friend even…be calm and be yourself. Let’s say you and your guy are getting along fantastically! It’s a rare thing indeed when an ex-wife can be nice to a new girlfriend.
You have no idea if these people liked his ex or couldn’t stand her, but you don’t want to be compared to her. Now, let’s assume his kids adore you and everything is going great. In fact, the better you get along with everyone else, the more likely the ex is to hate you for it.
Yes, I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him.
You’re not going to talk badly about his ex because you don’t want your relationship with him to be based on how much you both hate her!
So, aside from being the “bigger man” in the situation, and in spite of any feelings your guy might have towards his ex, you have to be cool so she isn’t interfering with your relationship (and yes, even unknowingly being talked about behind her back is a form of inadvertently interfering in your relationship).
Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.
As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!
You wouldn’t want him judging you based on your ex-boyfriend, would you? That usually means he’s not going to be in any rush to have it happen again.