How technology affects online dating
From pornography to merely surfing the web, the Internet is clearly the television of the 21st century, an electronic drug that often yanks us away from the physical world.Like any addiction, the real cost, for those of us who are truly addicted, is to the number and quality of our relationships with others.Photo: Steve Keys Email, Twitter, Facebook, My Space, You Tube, Delicious, Digg, Linked In, blogs (of course), and scores of others—all part of the new and wonderful ways we can now connect with one another electronically, each with its own culture and unique set of rules.In one sense, the planet has never been more interconnected.What I found when I interviewed a lot of daters (more than 100, plus 50 industry executives) is that people tended to be moving from one relationship to the next a lot faster than they seemed to before online dating existed.
As far as the algorithms go and the compatibility and ability of algorithms to predict compatibility between two people, what my reporting and research showed was that psychological science has not provided the ability to predict long-term compatibility between a couple who have never met.
Q: Do you think this story needed to be told by someone of your generation? Yes, perhaps in the sense that I was born in 1977, which was the generation of a lot of people now running these dating sites.