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Often in longer relationships, spouses don’t develop individual activities or support networks other than their mate.In the past, an extended family used to serve that function.The consequence is that people feel trapped or “on the fence” and racked with ambivalence.On one hand they crave freedom and independence; on the other hand, they want the security of a relationship – even a bad one.Going through divorce or separation brings with it all of the unfinished work of becoming an independent “adult.” Fears about leaving their spouse and children may be reiterations of the fears and guilt that they would have had upon separating from their parents, which were avoided by quickly getting into a relationship or marriage.
The way out may not require leaving the relationship. Develop a support system and become more independent and assertive.Homemakers fear being self-supporting or single moms, and breadwinners dread paying support and seeing their assets divided.Often spouses fear feeling shamed of leaving a “failed” marriage.Although the negative impact of divorce upon children is real, their worries may also be projections of fears for themselves.
This is compounded if they suffered from their parents’ divorce.
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